Almost

Anne Elliot- Book: Almost

Almost. Almost

How I hate that word and the way it defines me. Almost raped. Almost over it. Almost normal.  I can almost forget. Way worse, I can almost remember.

In the book written by Anne Elliot called “Almost” the girl has nightmares every certain amount of time due the almost rape she experienced when young. She is not allowed to have a normal life because of that traumatic event and instead of consuming the help provided, she decides to pretend that the help she received from the Psychologist  accomplished its purpose and helped her. She had a huge event in her life that did not let her move on with her own life.

Have you ever felt like there is something that can change your life and yet there is nothing really important. Like, there could be something huge but nothing happens and the time just passes by.

There is nothing big in my life, something that you can say is awesome. I’m just a normal girl that works everyday, reads books every once in a while, studies Psychology and that’s my everyday routine, the only unusual thing is that I enjoy watching anime or stuffs like that. Depending on the mood that I have, and what I’m listening at the moment, I imagine stories that could make me feel odd and someone will save me.

There is a song that I’m listening to lately called Aquarium and it has no lyrics, it’s just the music that expresses a desperation story, but also when I’m feeling happy it expresses the hope. I don’t know, that the magic of music, it means anything you want.

Sometimes I can imagine that my grandfather says that I have to marry some weird guy (like in the old movies? when there is a commitment or a debt to other family and the only way to pay it is the forced engagement) Well, I always think there is a girl out there that will say: “Hey let’s leave everything behind and start something new”  A we can start fresh somewhere far far away.

It’s the kind of thing you just start thinking without actually doing, and that’s fine because I love living within my own fantasies. Have you ever imagined something like that could happen? Someone who you loved in the past, regrets their decision and wants you back? What would you change, would you accept them? If there is something that you could change what would it be? Would you actually change it?

If I had the option to change something I would probably never change it, probably I wouldn’t make anything different because that made me who I am. But as I said, there is not such a huge life-changing fact that compromised my entire life.

About time travelling that is completely different. Probably I would save some money and go back in time to save my first dog, she died because I didn’t have money to pay the bills in the vet.

I love reading in other languages, so I have the book in Spanish in the following link in case you want it : https://drive.google.com/file/d/0B89Ay_38egq7NlRtRk5fTTRKWDA/view?usp=sharing

This book is available 'free' to check out on Amazon.com if you are an Amazon Prime member and participate in the amazing Kindle Lending program.

I’m not rich, i’m not very normal.

I’m just a lesbian that enjoys life

step by step... Is there a life-changing fact

that affects everyone?

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Advantages of being lesbian

A couple of days ago I was going to Psychoneurology class and I had this conversation with one of my classmates about what would we like to specialize when when finish our careers. One thing led to another and we both choose  adolescents. We don't especially like kids and although I'm 21 and I'm not planning to have kids at my age, she is on her 30's and she has two of them. She claims the only kids she can stand are hers.

They don't know that I'm gay, clearly, but one of my comments was that I ever had a  kid I wanted either gay or lesbian or someone that expands their limits in regards of their sesexualitysomeone who's not close minded and she said: NOOOOOO i like gay people and everything but I don't want one of them. This got me thinking, what are the advantages of being gay and that's why I created this list so here we go:

One of the good things about being in a relationship with another girl is that the closet gets bigger. If we have the same size we can share shoes, blouses, pants, skirts, hair products, perfume, coats, sweaters, almost everything... let's rule out underwear. This may sound kind of shallow but I consider that's one of the benefits of being with another girl.

This doesn’t happen most of the times but have you heard a girl that says: “You forgot our anniversary? Really?” …. well guess what?  it’s easier to remember the especial dates with another girl because you feel like you two are interested the same way. (This is not a rule obviously, I went crazy when my ex forgot ours)

If your girl and yourself like romantic movies you wouldn’t have to divide in between action or romantic but also if you two like action, i mean, what are the chances to have even more fun :D

Wanna cuddle? Let’s cuddle!. Wanna cuddle again? OK

Do you have the need of go out more times because you just need to see that person, no questions asked? Do it. It's good to to out with your friend but also there is a balance between friendship and relationship.

Usually you can get free drinks in a bar. (Not recommended though)

Are you on on those hard days of the month? Well maybe your girlfriend is prepared and she has sanitary pads on her purse.

You cannot get pregnant! You can have sex any time of the month. Greatest advantage if you are not interested of course

Anyway, I could only think of these advantages and sometime I hope to create one of the gay advantages. I need a gay friend though and if it's not too much to ask I want a girlfriend too.

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What do girls want?

Have you ever heard the phrase: If the straight relationship is hard, lesbian relationship must be harder!

I've heard that more times than you think!

Believe or not I've seen so many straight relationship or a lot of post that clearly shows while the woman is wondering what is he thinking and if he is upset the man in only thinking about a fly that just pass by. Well...

Sometimes that is true, but most of the times if the relationship between girls is also friendship we don't hesitate to ask if the other girl is upset or maybe sometimes we are just also thinking about the fly that just passed by.

Sometimes they wanna cuddle and guess what? The other one may want that too and they just do it. We have empathy skills and we know when to ask if the significant other is upset because we can put ourselves in her shoes.So here are a list of advices that you may follow. Not only for lesbians who want to know how to treat your girl but also for guys who don't have a clue.

Give her a good morning and a good night in any way you want : text, call, face to face.

Hug her whenever you have the opportunity, a deep hug, sometimes that's all you need to feel loved.

When she is going out for something, always wish her a good day. There is nothing better than the feeling of your significant other caring about you.

Tell her that she looks pretty, it doesn't matter if she has the makeup all over her face, if she is not wearing any, if she has what it's called "a dead face". Girls are always pretty no matter what.

Acknowledge her intelligence, just because she is pretty sometimes  society judge they are not smart enough. Well that's a bummer! There is something that you must know: There is a theory developed by Gardner called: Theory of multiple intelligences and it basically has 9 types of it. So, just because she is not very good at math, science or any technology, doesn't mean she is not smart at all. Have you seen how many of those skills where she can dance or play an instrument, where she has the best communication with others, where she has the skills to protect nature in ways you will never understand? Guess what? Those are all types of intelligences even though most of the times we only care about the logical-mathematical. Here is additional information about it: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Theory_of_multiple_intelligences

Be kind to her, even if you are mean to the whole world, show her that she is special and you can be entirely a bear just for her

Always fulfill her needs, ALWAYS. You do know what I"m talking about. A great variety of girls rather taking care of you than being taken care of, but for the love of god, PLEASE HER SEXUALLY. Dedicate a session just for her, there is nothing better that dedicate to your girl because they just deserve it.

A present will make her feel that you thought about her while doing it, I'm not talking about an expensive present, if she likes it, make her a song,a poem, a tiny chocolate.

If she is sick take care of her with a soup, even if she says she is ok

Give her some space too, just because sometimes we need contact doesn't mean we always need that. If we are in a relationship both sides need to go out with their friends, just remember if you get to meet them each one has their own friends so don't try to steal them away from her.

Respect her, why on earth would you call her bitch??. Ok let me start over, why on earth would you call a woman bitch or any of those nasty words created exclusively for woman. Would you let anyone treat your mom like that? Please just don't. Even if you are fighting

Use the time that you have together wisely, turn off your phone if your friends are bugging, close facebook, spend your time with her appropriately. Trust me, when you are no longer with her you will remember those special moments

Be honest to her, if you are not interest in a relation just let her know.

Apology is hard but sometimes you need to break your pride and apologize. But apologies are just words, make something meaningful to earn that apology.

Even the best relationships fight, so a fight once in a while and talk about it won't hurt.

Always make her fall in love with you, just because she is with you doesn't mean that automatically she is yours.

If you love her, tell her but if you don't love her, there is noo need to break her heart and fill an illusion.

So I hope this list helps you out a little bit to improve the situation in your relationship :)